Personal View on CS

I had a friend ask me today if I was against child support and this was my response:


Nope. I'm completely against BM taking DH to court for more child support when he is paying $600/month for one child, plus pays for her insurance plus 80% of anything not covered by insurance. Meanwhile, BM sold her business, is now a stay-at-home mom (which doesn't bother me because she can do what she wants BUT the state we live in is a dual income state so both parents income comes into consideration and by law she doesn't have to work unless the "parties" have a child under 6), she won't produce any of her income for the last 4 years because GUESS WHAT? She doesn't pay taxes and never has. And now she told her attorney that DH has been "rubbing his raise and paycheck" in her face. When in fact he hasn't "talked" to her in 6 months (all they do is email and text), she has been the one (and I have it recorded) telling him how busy she is at her work, how she is booked solid for 4 months in advance and how she has 4 weddings scheduled that she will bring in $300-500 for working each of those Saturdays and DH hasn't got a raise in the last year. I think child support should be a requirement BUT not an income. Especially when SD doesn't want to live with BM anymore, is only passing P.E. and one other class and has missed 36 classes so far this year...yet BM wants more child support for the kid that is on depression meds, has written two suicide notes and tells her cousins and friends that she would rather run away or be dead because she doesn't want to live with BM anymore because BM won't let her see us.
So, when a child is used against a parent just for money, then yes, I am against child support. When child support is actually used to support the child and not the mother, I am all for it. But when a mother wants to quit her job to stay at home with children who are NOT her ex's then she still needs to financially take care of the older one (especially when she quits her job to take care of younger children that she chose to have) and not want the dad to cover 100% of BM's needs while SD is missing school, failing and has suicidal thoughts over her living situation.


***I will add that SD is a teenager so the rule of not working does not apply to BM. And when I say "she still needs to financially take care of the older one" I don't mean BM should be the only one responsible BUT BM should do her part. DH didn't quit his job and stop paying CS just because he had kids with someone else. Would that have been acceptable? NO!