Is it about control?

DH has been requesting his daughter’s insurance cards from BM for two months now. SD is not only covered by DH's insurance but Stepdad’s insurance AND Medicaid AND a supplemental insurance company. It has been excuse after excuse as to why he hasn't got a copy or duplicate yet. First it was that the doctor was listed wrong on the insurance. What does that have to do with the card? Am I just insane for thinking that the doctor listed doesn't have any effect on the actual card? Tonight’s excuse was that BM has requested a duplicate be mailed to HER so that she can give it to him. So, he has joint custody but the card has to be sent through her? Why doesn't she just give the insurance company his address and information so that he can be a contact as well? Or why can’t BM give us the insurance's name and WE will get our own card.

I often wonder if me getting mad about these petty, minor things are even worth the effort. Should DH have the same rights as BM? Why shouldn’t he???????? Why does BM have to have control over every single thing instead of truly co-parenting?

When I bring it up with DH he says I "just like to fight". Damn straight! I want to fight for his rights, fight for equality between the parents, fight for SD's needs. What would happen if something happened to SD and we didn't have her insurance information? We are going out of state this coming week so it is more important (to me) that we have that information. Feedback????? Advice??? Anything would be welcome!